Most of us believe that we need to have something, so that we then can do things, so that we can be happy. For example in our relationships, there are times that we wish to have a partner/child. friend, etc who behaves in a certain way, so that we can do certain things together, so that we can be happy. For example I used the think, if I have a husband would be more interested in the way I think, then we will talk more together and I will be fulfilled in the relationship. This Have-Do-Want is a very ineffective way to create The Life You Want.
I was listening to Neal Donald Walsch the other day on this subject. He is the author of the Conversations With God books. He explained that God told him that we need to turn things around,; to first Be, then Do and the Have will come. The last few days I have been playing around with new approach and the results have been amazing!,
When my husband's unintentional behavior pushed my buttons, I said to myself, “I am fulfilled”. But then my inner-voice screamed at me “Who are you kidding, I am not fulfilled; I am frustrated!” So that didn’t work. I had to find something that I could say to myself that I believed.
So I asked myself, “Why do I want a fulfilling relationship?” The answer: "I want to feel fulfilled, so that I can be at peace." I realised that in a challenging situation I could say to myself “I choose peace. I am at peace" While taking an few deep breaths, I would connect with my inner peace. (Be)/ After doing this a few times, I had the idea to talk (Do) to my husband about what I had learnt and asked if we could listen to it together. He said yes and we had (Have) some fulfilling discussions about what we listened to.
We can do the same when we feel ill or anything else. If it is not yet believable to say “I am healthy”, then we can start with saying, I am at peace.
Why is it so important to claim our state of being?
Our energy field affects our own body, because it affects the quality of the cells that are created each millisecond. This is how we can start with our healing process.
This energy field also affects our environment with the people in it.The people around us also pick up our “vibes” and respond accordingly.
Be-Do Have, is a great inner-wellbeing strategy to have. Play around with it for a couple of days and start to notice what changes in your life. It will take some effort on your behalf to choose a peaceful state of being, instead letting your emotions just running away with you, but it is worth it.
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