How to deal personal attack

How to deal personal attack

​​What to do when you feel attacked?
There will be times in our lives where we feel attacked. Sometimes it is at work, but it also happens by loved ones. How can you deal with it and actually benefit from it? Let me share with you how I did this.


The first reaction
I attended a meeting the other day, when I really felt attacked. My first reaction was to withdraw and have a pity party. Donna McCallum, teaches about how we have ego monsters who drive us. The first one to come out was Sally the Self-Pity monster. Poor me, “How could they attack me after all the hard work I had done?”

That then fueled Rigel the Righteous monster, who was telling me how right I was and how wrong they were. But this didn’t help me, because they only fueled my desire for revenge in some shape or form. Brené Brown always says that we are better in dishing pain out to others than dealing with our own pain. I also learnt from the Course in Miracles that when we attack someone else, we are actually also attacking ourselves. I realised that if I was going to give in to my desire to seek revenge, everybody would lose, myself included.

Having an honest look at myself
I started my recovery process by having an honest look at what I was accused of. Maybe they had a point. If they did, then it is for me to put my dented pride aside and change my ways. If they didn’t, I let it go. In this situation, Iunderstand why my actions could have been misinterpreted, even though the accusations were in my eyes not true. In future, I could do things differently so my intentions are less likely to be misinterpreted. That is a valuable lesson learnt. I realise that my focus and enthusiasm can easily be misinterpreted as being dominating and pushy.


​Applying the Three Fingers Pointing Back

After licking my wounds it was time to apply my own teaching and favourite subject, “The three fingers pointing back.” What did I perceive as the attack? I was hurt because someone was criticising / accusing me of things I haven’t done. They also didn’t trust me and my intentions.

The key question is “Where do I do this to myself?” When I change the way I treat myself, I automatically also change the way I treat others. I am still too often critical of myself and I am not always clear myself on why I do things. From now on-wards, I am going to do my best to support myself more, even when I make mistakes. And before I do things I ask myself “Why do I want to do this?”, so that I am clear on my intentions. I am going to stop doing things out of obligation, I am only going to do something if I want to do it. This is going to give me quite some free time, which I can use to focus on what is important for me. Wonderful!

Why did I create this in my life?
I had one more question to answer “Why did I create this in my life?” When I take responsibility for everything that happens in my life, I take control. Today I was listening to an interview with John Assaraf. He was talking about how we have a mental ceiling on what we can achieve. This is partly inherited and partly created by our personal experiences. I had noticed that I have been stuck at a certain level for many years. I was stuck in my comfort zone. This incident just blew me right out of my comfort zone.

Maria Montessori’s quote came to mind.“When you are climbing up a ladder and a dog bites your ankle, what do you do? Stop to kick the dog or keep on climbing and move out of reach of that dog? I am choosing to go up the ladder and this will take me to new heights.
I am now actually grateful for the attack, because I am now going to break through my ceiling!
In conclusion
When we feel attacked it is very easy to let our ego take over and lash out at others. If you can curb that desire, you can find gold and tremendous growth in that whole situation.
​Don’t stop to kick the dog, keep climbing up the ladder!

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How Can We Work with Universal Principles to Create Abundance?

How Can We Work with Universal Principles to Create Abundance?

First some doom and gloom
When I look at our current South African government policies, I cringe. They say they want to create prosperity for all, but in the mean time they violate every universal law there is to create prosperity. One of them is the law of fair exchange. Expropriation without compensation doesn’t seem so fair to me. Another law is the law of cause and effect, also known as “What you sow is what you reap”. Another way of saying the same thing is “What you do to others, you do to yourself too”. This means that when you take wealth away from others, you will lose your wealth too. The politicians might argue that they are uplifting the poor by giving them land and more. But there is a huge difference between giving your own and giving other people’s possessions away. And it is obvious, that if people with money and possessions don’t feel that their belongings are safe, they are going to take them elsewhere. A huge de-investment will take place, which will lead to more poverty.

What is the Solution?
If we want to create wealth, regardless of our circumstances and idiotic governments (all over the world), we can work with universal laws:
1. The Law of Attraction
2. The Law of Cause and Effect
3. The Laws That Govern Money

1. the Law of Attraction.
You attract the things that are a vibrational match to how you feel. If you feel self-respect, you will attract experiences and opportunities that make you feel good about yourself. This will include opportunities to create wealth. The key to creating abundance is to act on those opportunities that often present themselves as ideas. In my From Victim to Master course, you can learn how to love and respect yourself from the inside out and how to recognise these opportunities. I will be teaching this course 9-11 November in Dubai and 8-10 December in Midrand South Africa. We also do one-on-one consultations with people from all over the world, to assist people to change their beliefs.

2. The law of cause and effect.
When we are fearful and believe in lack, we see everything as black and white, literally and figuratively. When we are stressed, our brain goes into survival mode and we are unable to see the opportunities that are available. When our actions are motivated by lack, we attract more lack.
When we feel good about ourselves, it is much easier to look at the world and the people in it, with eyes of love. We can now see more opportunities and how we can co-operate with others to create more wealth together. This is when we can become the Rainbow Nation we are destined to be.
3. The Laws that Govern Money
Donna McCallum is an expert on teaching people about how to create money magic. I have attended a number of her courses and she has helped me a lot to create more wealth and more direction. I love her holistic and even spiritual approach to this subject.
She has a free video series you can watch on how to work with the laws that govern money. Click on her picture to get the video training.
In Conclusion
Even if the world around us seems to be scary and unfriendly, we can create a peaceful, fulfilling and abundant life, by working with Universal Laws/Principles. If you need assistance, come and get some help. You are worth investing in.

​Hanna Kok – Peace Facilitator

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