I love comparing people to Smarties.
On the outside, we are all different, just like Smarties come in different colours. But underneath those differences, I believe we are far more alike than we realise.
Over the years, I have asked thousands of people what they want from life. And what I discovered taught me something important about how to create the life you want. (more…)
What can politicians teach us about ourselves? To explore this question, I chose two South African politicians who, in my personal view, represent opposite ends of several important spectrums: Julius Malema and Dr Pieter Groenewald.
Why these two men, and why am I suggesting that we can learn from both of them? (more…)
Why befriend the mirror? Because it can reveal the beliefs and patterns that keep us feeling powerless and stuck—and show us how to shift them.
What do you think is the most unpopular piece of furniture in my coaching practice?
The chair someone sits on?
No. It is the mirror I invite people to look into. (more…)
Why do bad things happen to good people?
It is a question people have asked for centuries. I do not pretend to have one answer that explains every painful event. However, after more than 30 years of working with people, I have noticed a pattern that may offer part of the answer. (more…)
Fifty-five years ago, as a 12-year-old girl living in the Netherlands, I did a school project about South Africa. It focused on apartheid and the injustice I saw. Even then, I dreamed of creating greater equality and peace in South Africa. (more…)
Many of us believe that being hard on ourselves is the key to success.
We replay our mistakes, point out our shortcomings, and tell ourselves we could have done better. We think this inner criticism will motivate us to improve. Why do so many of us believe this? (more…)